A pregnant woman has spoken out and sought advice after falling pregnant with her best friend’s sperm.
As the 30-year-old British lady revealed, she is asexual which is why she decided to have kids via IVF. Helping out the woman, her 31-year-old male friend decided to step in and offer his sperm for free with no strings attached.
After the woman fell pregnant with twins, she decided to thank her friend and his wife only to find out that the man failed to tell his wife about his ‘generous’ donation.
Infuriated by the news, the man’s wife then slammed her husband as well as the pregnant woman and accused them of withholding important decisions from her.
“I’m a 30 year old asexual woman who is currently 33 weeks pregnant with twin girls that I conceived through IVF. I have always wanted children but never really considered them on the cards for me due to my sexuality but now I am in a position where I felt stable enough to bring a child into the world on my own so I decided to go through IVF,” the woman revealed in her viral post.
“My best friend since Highschool (31M) found out about my plan and how I was looking into finding a donor so it wouldn’t be anonymous and I could vet medical history etc and offered to be the sperm donor as at least I’d know his medical history and any risks there was attached.
“I agreed but made it very clear he wouldn’t be a parental role in the child’s life, at most he’d be an honorary ‘Uncle’ due to our friendship. He was happy to agree to this and it never once occurred to me that he would offer this without running this by his wife (31F) first.”
She added: “I recently took my friend and his wife out to dinner to thank them for doing this for me and celebrate being in the third trimester but his wife was confused when I explained the reason for the dinner and then angry demanding to know why we kept this from her I was just as shocked and asked my friend if he hadn’t told his wife, he tried to explain to both of us he hadn’t thought it’d matter as he has no rights to them at all.
“His wife got even angrier at that part stating she isn’t comfortable with their son (6M) having siblings that aren’t really his siblings and she wants that part changed so that her husband has a legal say over the girls.
“I was in shock over this but said I wouldn’t be doing that as I wanted to raise them alone, the three of us got into a huge argument and his wife demanded to know why I wouldn’t tell her that her husband had offered this in the first place.”
Asking the internet for advice, the woman said she feels “very guilty” for not consulting her friend’s wife first. She insisted, however, that “it honestly never occurred to me that he wouldn’t have done that first.”
After her post went viral, the majority of viewers agreed that the pregnant woman was not in the wrong and that it was up to her male friend to discuss the matter with his wife before agreeing to anything.
“Oh my god. The fact that he has a son with his wife makes it even more confusing to me why he wouldn’t have run this by her or at least let her know he planned to do it. You did the right thing by thanking them as a unit, since married couples should be operating as a unit,” someone wrote.
“Your friend is the major a**hole here. I understand the wife being upset about this, her husband definitely should’ve talked this over with her before offering to be a donor,” another said.
The third wrote: “It was his responsibility more than yours to tell her about it. Although, I do find it odd that you got this far in the process without mentioning it to her at all.”
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